"Get up, stand up, Stand up for your rights. Get up, stand up, Don’t give up the fight." - Bob Marley giving me advice

Last week, on this day, I was walking along Newport, Rhode Island's famed Cliff Walk. On one side, endless ocean views. On the other, acres of manicured lawns framing 30,000-100,000 square foot Gilded Age mansions. We lucked out with the weather. Sunshine, gentle breezes and clear skies.
I had been there once before, 1991, after graduating. I don't remember much, but two things come to mind. One was seeing a bridge under construction with a big Kiewit sign on it. Kiewit is a construction firm based in Omaha (one of our campus dorms was named after a Kiewit). Until that minute, I hadn't considered them to be national power players. Actually, I hadn't considered them at all. Turns out the company is kind of a big deal.
The second was eating dinner at a crowded little Mexican restaurant. There was a small group of us and the wait staff took our drink order. Then we waited. And waited. We were only 22 years old, and we didn't want to be a nuisance, but after an unreasonably long time, I got up the nerve to ask about our order. "Hold on," the man said. He came to the table about 10 minutes later. It seems our server had quit her job after she took our order. Gone. Skipped out. Flew the coop. Ghosted.
Since then, I've tried to remember what she looked like and if there were any indications of unhappiness. She was around our age. It was peak tourist season, so the place was packed. Was seeing another group of her peers struggling to order a margarita too much? A step too far? Was she like, that's it! I'm going to law school! Or did she get some bad news? It was before cell phones, so that's not likely. Maybe she just disappeared like that kid in "Into the Wild." No one was carrying a tracking device in those days. I hope she's okay. I hope things worked out for her.
Whatever happened in her life, I'm left with being a little miffed about my lack of self-advocacy. What was I afraid of? I should have followed up on our order a lot sooner.
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