"I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity." – Einstein
(Backstory: What it's like to ask strangers if you can see what's on their phone)
Feeling alone and loneliness are not the same things. Loneliness is described by researchers as the subjective feeling that you lack meaningful relationships or a solid support system, while feeling alone is a more temporary condition. The latter long for a connection and are open to taking action to remedy the feeling. The former are described as being passively resigned their fate. It's a helpful distinction. Especially these days as we tend to bury our face in our phones more often than striking up conversations with strangers.
If you know someone who might be dealing with loneliness and want to help, help them plug into a big mission or purpose. It's not foolproof, but when we're tied into something bigger than ourselves it has a tendency to re-establish social connections. On the other hand, if what they're dealing with is feeling alone (new city, new job, friend moving) encourage them to try one of the many new connection apps and remind them it's temporary.
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